I choose who I love.

In my novel, Sense And Sensibility, the main conflict in the story revolves around the idea of man vs. man. As sisters, Elinor and Marianne are both very demanding for the type of men that they would love and would want to marry. However, the type of men both sisters would choose differs greatly. Elinor prefers someone who is well-read and wise; she doesn't care as much for appearance and she appreciates a man's nobility and reserve. On the other hand, Marianne desires for a man who is romantic; she gets dazzled easily by a man's appearance and she can be persuaded quite easily with a man's ability to act like a gentleman and with his "sweet talk". Consequently, this leads to both sisters criticizing the type of men the other finds suitable to be her other half. Elinor has met a gentleman named Edward Ferrars who she is quite fond of, however Marianne is disappointed to find that he isn't more striking or more passionate about poetry, literature, and art. This is the reason why Marianne feels that her sister is making a big mistake by planning to devote the rest of her life for Edward as she can't see being with a man who can't fully admire, appreciate and show a burning passion for all the things she is fervent about. Moreover, the man whom Marianne has set her eyes on is John Willoughby. Willoughby has swept Marianne off her feet, literally as he comes along to Marianne's rescue when he carries her home after she twists her ankle, but also when she finds out they have much in common. For instance, they both love dancing, music, as well as the same authors. He is also attractive and overly-romantic like Marianne. However, though Marianne admires this young bachelor, Elinor immediately detects his lack of good sense and feels that he isn't the right man for her sister. Instead, Elinor finds Colonel Brandon, who is quite in love with Marianne, the more suitable bachelor for her sister as she admires his good sense. Unfortunately, Marianne finds Colonel Brandon quite boring, unremarkable, and far too old for her to marry. In conclusion, both sisters have trouble getting the others' approval for whom they choose to love.

This definitely reminds me of my life and I'm sure many people who are reading this can relate as well. Though I can't speak for everyone, I personally feel that whenever I get a crush, there is always one person in my life whether its my friends, family, or people in general, who will find the idea of this boy and I being together odd. However, isn't the question always, "don't I choose who I like/love?"  Then wouldn't the question become, "if you really love me, wouldn't you accept who I like if that person makes me happy?" If you're answering yes for both of these questions like me, then how come people still get so much trouble getting the approval of the person they love by their loved ones? I know that these people are probably looking out for that person in case they make the wrong decision but ultimately, most people feel that their ideals for love is "correct" which is why they will try to influence other people to see their principles. Thus, I feel like love will always behold many obstacles in its path as there will be many conflicts encountered whether its learning to ignore what others think or choose to find a man who satisfies everybody but yourself.